Resisting Hurtful Messages with Counternarratives 

Posted on Mar 4, 2020 in Collaborative Communication, Gender Diversity, Transformation | 0 comments

We get messages from all around us in many different forms – from words, behaviors, images, books, television and more. Negative messages can leave us feeling that we don’t belong, we’re not enough, we’re too much, we’re unlovable, or we’re undeserving. This post provides some tips for resisting and countering those messages. Read on for ways to support young people, adults, or for your own self-care. When my child was growing...

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Halloween: A perfect time to challenge stereotypes

Posted on Oct 15, 2018 in Gender Diversity | 0 comments

“What will I be for Halloween?” is on the minds of many children this month. Halloween can be a time when anything is possible, but these possibilities can also be snatched away by pressure to fit gender stereotypes. Here are some reactions I’ve gotten from kids after reading the book I wrote about a little boy who wants to dress up as a princess: “Why would a boy want to wear a dress?”, or  “Don’t...

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Using Gender-Inclusive Language with Children & Families: 7 Tips

Posted on Mar 30, 2018 in Collaborative Communication, Gender Diversity | 10 comments

The Gendering of Language When you pay attention, it’s hard to miss the fact that gendered words are part and parcel of everyday language. For most of my life, I just took these habits for granted. But, raising a nonbinary child and learning from the LGBTQ+ community has made me more aware of how deeply ingrained gendered language is, and how harmful it can be. Most gendered words are binary; they make room for only two genders...

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What’s Gender Diversity Got to Do with My Nonprofit?

Posted on Jul 27, 2017 in Gender Diversity | 0 comments

Published by Neon CRM on July 26, 2017, here. There’s a gender revolution going on. Young people are busting out of gender boxes and expressing who they are in many ways. Growing numbers of children, youth, and adults are identifying as transgender. Important progress has been made as the result of many years of struggle, and the work of many leaders and activists, both past and present. This includes growing awareness that gender isn’t...

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A School District That’s Starting Gender Diversity Conversations Early

Posted on Apr 18, 2017 in Gender Diversity | 0 comments

Published on Huffington Post here. It’s a Tuesday after school and 25 elementary school personnel are gathered at the Office of School Health of the San Francisco Unified School District (SFUSD). They are there to learn about gender diversity and how to bring this conversation into the elementary schools. The District is breaking new ground by giving educators tools and resources to make their classrooms, curriculum, and health services...

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What I Wish I’d Known About Gender When I Became a Parent

Posted on Mar 9, 2016 in Gender Diversity | 2 comments

Published in Huffington Post “You had a beautiful baby boy.” Those were the first words I heard after my child was born. I named them Daniel and started dressing them in clothes made for boys. But, raising a child is often full of the unexpected. It soon became obvious that Danny wasn’t a stereotypical boy. They loved Barbie dolls, dressing up in skirts and shimmery things, and preferred playing with girls. I didn’t know...

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