Using Gender-Inclusive Language with Children & Families: 7 Tips

Posted on Mar 30, 2018 in Authentic Communication, Diversity, Equity and Inclusion, Gender and Sexual Orientation, Lessons from the Field | 7 comments

The Gendering of Language When you pay attention, it’s hard to miss the fact that gendered words are part and parcel of everyday language. For most of my life, I just took these habits for granted. But, raising a gender-expansive child and learning from the LGBTQ+ community has made me more aware of how deeply ingrained gendered language is, and how harmful it can be. Most gendered words are binary; they make room for only two genders...

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What’s Gender Diversity Got to Do with My Nonprofit?

Posted on Jul 27, 2017 in Diversity, Equity and Inclusion, Gender and Sexual Orientation, Lessons from the Field | 0 comments

Published by Neon CRM on July 26, 2017, here. There’s a gender revolution going on. Young people are busting out of gender boxes and expressing who they are in many ways. Growing numbers of children, youth, and adults are identifying as transgender. Important progress has been made as the result of many years of struggle, and the work of many leaders and activists, both past and present. This includes growing awareness that gender isn’t...

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My Son Inspired My New Children’s Book

Posted on Sep 5, 2016 in Gender and Sexual Orientation, Lessons from the Field | 0 comments

Published on Huffington Post 09/05/16 Being a mother has called me to do things I never thought I’d do. Now, here I am, about to become a published children’s book author! What inspired my book? Let me take you back to when my son Danny was in kindergarten, over 20 years ago… COVER ART BY ROBERT LIU-TRUJILLO, 2016Danny with a picture of the princess he wants to be in the school parade. Danny is five and he’s already starting to...

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What I Wish I’d Known About Gender When I Became a Parent

Posted on Mar 9, 2016 in Gender and Sexual Orientation, Lessons from the Field | 0 comments

Published in Huffington Post here. “You had a beautiful baby boy.” Those were the first words I heard after my child was born. I named him Daniel and started dressing him in clothes made for boys. But, raising a child is often full of the unexpected. It soon became obvious that Danny was different than other boys. He loved Barbie dolls, dressing up in skirts and shimmery things, and preferred playing with girls. I didn’t know...

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Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion Work: Eight Questions for Building Readiness and Steering Clear of Pitfalls

Posted on Dec 29, 2015 in Diversity, Equity and Inclusion, Lessons from the Field | 0 comments

Diversity, equity, and inclusion work can transform organizations and help them do their work more effectively. This work can be most successful when people are fully invested and have a good idea what is involved. Without this, organizations sometimes set themselves up for failure and bring consultants in with unrealistic expectations. If you are thinking of launching into work around diversity, equity, and inclusion, this post may help you...

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My Son was a Princess for Halloween and I Became a Better Parent

Posted on Oct 1, 2015 in Gender and Sexual Orientation, Lessons from the Field | 0 comments

(published in Huffington Post on September 30, 2015. Also published in Polish, here. See related story on Good Morning America, here.) A few weeks before my son Danny’s 4th birthday, I asked him what he wanted to be for Halloween. “I wanna be a princess,” he said. He didn’t hesitate for a second. But I did. I cringed inside and tried hard not to show it. “My reaction was clouded by visions of children teasing, of...

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